Thursday, November 15, 2012

Let me tell you a Love Story.

(A letter to the biological parents of our future child)

My name is Steven and many years ago, when I was in high school in Dallas, Oregon, my family had the Mormon Missionaries over for dinner. While we ate they asked me if I knew a girl named Kellie whose family they were teaching. I responded that we had a few classes together including choir. We were both high school seniors and it was spring. I began to date Kellie and we eventually went to the prom. We began steady dating and shortly graduated from high school together.
That summer, Kellie went to spend the summer in Los Angeles. I stayed in our home town and attended college. As they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder and when Kellie returned from Los Angeles I presented her with a very modest promise ring. Kellie began college and we continued our relationship until eventually I would be called to the Indianapolis Indiana Mission. I spent two years with the warm and hospitable people of Indiana. We corresponded through letters during this time and Kellie would send me thoughtful gifts including homemade cookies that my companions always loved. When I returned Kellie was at the airport waiting for me and we picked up right where we left off. A week later we attended the LDS Temple in Portland, Oregon and I prayed to know if I should marry Kellie. The Spirit of the Lord confirmed to me that we should be married in the temple. Before we left, I asked her parents, who were at the Temple with me, if I could marry their daughter and amazingly they agreed! I proposed to Kellie in the atrium of the Temple before we left. I was relieved that she immediately said yes!
We didn’t have much, she was in college and I was in college and working for my dad who owned a local tool rental company and service station. We were married 6 months to the day from my return to Indiana. The wedding occurred during a winter freeze a few days before Christmas. The ceremony was fabulous; many other details were ruined including our honeymoon. The resort called to say we could still come, but the pipes were frozen and they had no running water. One of Kellie’s bridesmaids had a baby and missed the reception. We made do. It didn’t matter because we had each other. My dad opened a small used car dealership and eventually a trucking company which I worked for as well. I became a truck driver and learned the value of really hard work. After a year or so of that, I determined I would rather work with my mind than my back. I returned to college and got straight A’s with a heavy load my first term, because I was motivated to change my trajectory. I graduated from college and worked briefly in the mortgage business and then for the State of Oregon - Department of Justice – Child Support Enforcement Division. But, my passion was computers and that was the industry I wanted to work in. I went back to school to learn web design and computer programming. That eventually led us to Las Vegas where I began working with a new dot com that helped car dealerships promote their inventory on the internet. I get to work with computers and cars and really love my job. The job has been very good to us and allowed Kellie to stay at home making our house a home, and will allow us to send our children to college and retire with dignity.
We have been a loving, married couple perhaps longer than you have been alive. Our marriage is a rock and that will not be changing. We have disagreements, as any couple does, and to say that voices are never raised in our home would not have the ring of honesty and truth. But at the end of the day we work on our problems together and our long, eternal marriage has already passed the test of time and we look forward to sharing that commitment and stability with our future children.

We have hopes and dreams for our unborn children. Kellie is into crafts and works with crocheting and cross-stitch and is always making crafts for her Nursery class or Girls Camp. She is an excellent cook and really enjoys trying new recipes, especially deserts. I enjoy computers, electronics, mechanics and woodworking. My father instilled in both of us the enjoyment of camping and riding ATVs, which we often took Kellie on before we were married. We both love to play with children and enjoy watching them learn and grow. We would love to share the activities we enjoy with our children, but more importantly, we want to see them supported in their own dreams and to become what they have the desire and potential to become. We hope that our children will see the value of a college education, or other advanced training, that will allow them to build a comfortable and fulfilling life.

I can honestly say that my parents never had to resort to physical punishment and I don't think it is useful or even works. We have never laid a hand on each other and would never abuse in the slightest a child placed in our care! We believe that children can be raised with expectations and non-physical consequences, and when parents are firm and fair a child can learn what is expected of them and how to make decisions which lead to happiness.

Alas, we were finally able to support children emotionally and financially, but were not blessed with them. Infertility is an emotionally painful condition and we tried several procedures to alleviate the pain we both feel, but they didn’t work and they just didn’t feel right. We have so much love and support to give that we decided to build our family through adoption. We hope to turn your difficult situation into a forever family, and that is where you come in. We hope that this letter will let you know about us and what we can offer your upcoming baby. You can help write the fairy tale ending.

Hello, Kellie here…

I was born in Kingsville Texas the daughter of a loving mother and a naval aviator. I’ve lived in southern California, (Poway, Chatsworth and Valencia.) When I was 9 years old we moved to a farm in Oregon. I eventually landed in Dallas, Oregon where I met my husband in high school. I was investigating the Mormon Church and suddenly Steven took an interest in me and we dated, and went to the Prom together. We dated steadily for about a year until Steven left on his mission. I waited 2 years for him to return and when he got back he asked me to marry him, and I knew we were meant to be.

We just wanted to take this opportunity to let you get to know a little bit about us. As you can see this will be our first adopted child, but we are not strangers to the adoption process. On my Husband’s side, a brother, a niece, and nephew were adopted. We have seen love given and given love to these precious souls and they are loved as if they had been born into the family.

We maintain a careful budget that ensures our priorities are met. We consider college a priority, so our child(ren) will have the finances to attend a great college. We live in a nice, quiet, gated community, where the children can play outside. We are family oriented. We spend a lot of time with extended family. We go to dinner at my Mom’s house after church on Sundays. We have family night at my in-laws, once a week, where we have dinner and play games/puzzles. Occasionally, we like to go out to dinner or a movie. We try to go on a sensible vacation every year or two, though this year we splurged and went to Maui for a week.
My husband and I love to watch NASCAR races on TV, or attend them, when we can. We also like to follow NCAA Football. Our favorite team is the University of Oregon Ducks. Right now we have a little Shih-Tzu puppy named Pepper. She is the love of our lives. She enjoys going with us to visit family and play with our nieces and nephews. She loves to play fetch or just lie on the couch and look cute.

My husband and I attend the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints every week. Each Sunday, during church, I volunteer in the nursery for 2 hours. I help teach the children that are 18 months to 3 years old. We have lesson/color time, play time, music time, and snack time. My Husband volunteers with the young men of our church, ages 14-15. He helps plan youth activities and is a Boy Scout leader. We believe in being moral, upstanding people and to live as Jesus Christ would have us live. We will endeavor to raise our children with these same morals and values.

We will be fun, loving parents. We will make sure that we allow a child to be a child, but will teach them discipline, a strong work ethic, and to grow into a person that others will enjoy being around. We plan on getting down on their level and playing with them, being very hands on with a child. My husband gets down on the floor and plays blocks, tractors, you name it, with our 2 year old nephew and it is a joy to watch. I can’t wait for the day when we can do this with a child of our own. We will do everything we can to give your child a safe, LOVING, environment to grow up in. We have so much love in our home that adopting a child can only increase it. Nieces, nephews, cousins, aunts, uncles and grandparents all await with open and loving arms our future addition.

Let’s make a Miracle together!

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